Dolly's Mine Your Memories™
relationships, real communication, real community.
That’s what everyone wants and needs. The three are inter-related. One
feeds the other and simultaneously is nourished by
the others. Shared stories are central to all.
require a shift from ME to WE™.
A ME orientation is self-centered, usually myopic.
WE implies mutuality. It means reaching out
across the abyss of isolation and antagonism,
building on common ground, and caring about and
contributing to the
common good. This “WEness” is the heart of any
relationship, from the individual to the global.
Moving from ME to WE™
is essential to any healthy family, or neighborhood,
or friendship, or love, or kinship, or organization,
or working relationship, or, for that matter,
society. Spread the ME to WE™
commitment beyond a pair or a few to a larger group,
and we begin to develop community.
yearn for a sense of true community, with strong
human connection. Don’t we all want to
experience this warm inter-relatedness,
not only in our homes, but in our
workplaces, businesses, churches, temples,
synagogues, schools, universities, leisure lives,
neighborhoods, towns, and, well, whatever we call
our communities? Whether or not we articulate (or
even fully recognize) this hunger for genuine
community, we tend to gravitate toward wherever
community is promised and tend to stay wherever
is truly found.
and vacation communities are proliferating:neo-traditional
neighborhoods, urban villages, co-housing, active
retirement communities, condominiums with shared
amenities, and other lifestyle and even travel options that tout
community. Yes, some places are gated, secure fortresses
designed to keep out a variety of threats or
perceived threats. But the most successful are
learning to bring people together for an authentic
sense of community, whether permanent or short term
(as with "snowbirds" or certain resorts or
eco-tourism environments). Community can be a major
marketing attraction, but reality must deliver! Yet
real community doesn’t often just emerge
accidentally, even with the best intentions of civic
leaders, urban planners, architects, residential and
resort developers, senior living specialists,
ministers, teachers, enlightened business executives
and managers, or others who increasingly recognize
So how do
we make community, nurture it, keep it, assure it
for others? Community and communication grow
from the same root, communis, which means
common. Any kind of community must find and build on
common needs, common goals, common understanding.
Building and deepening community, achieving
anything as a community, requires good
communication. Effective communication also requires
commonality—some unity of purpose, of language, of
motivation, of process. Paradoxically, communities
thrive also on diversity—but only IF varying
heritage, backgrounds, styles, abilities and other
human variables are recognized, acknowledged, and
appreciated. When differences are perceived as
gifts, or potential gifts, within the larger
commonality, groups may achieve the state of
unity in diversity. Unity in diversity plus
continuous or lifelong learning make
a vital, vigorous community.
sounds like talking in circles, it's because the reality
is circular. It’s all cyclical, inter-related,
and dynamic, like an ever moving infinity symbol.
Effective communication feeds community. Healthy
communities are both diverse and unified and
continuously learning. Thriving
communities communicate well, learn constantly, and maintain strong
relationships—which foster ever-strengthening
powerful communication strategies that promote,
foster, and deepen community. Dr. Dolly’s original
is one fun learning tool that uses simple geometric shapes
to help participants explore personality and
behavior, to better understand themselves and others. It’s an
invigorating process crucial to developing teams,
organizations, or communities (which are really
variations on the same theme).
Dialogues is a longer
process that uses communication, including some life
story sharing, to foster and maintain unity within diversity.
Writing, from personal and organizational
histories to newsletters and booklets, may also work
wonders, particularly narrative writing that tells
good, true stories.
Mine Your Memories™
story sharing and story writing
and other Dr. Dolly
options offer endless opportunities to build
and deepen relationships of all kinds and to build
and deepen community of all kinds. Ironically, when some
people today hear the
word “communication,” they think "computers." Computers are simply one
mechanical tool for connecting human beings.
Hieroglyphics, the quill, the printing press, the
radio, television—before all these were stories,
human stories. And still, nothing links lives more
powerfully or more permanently than true stories
well shared. Such linkage can bridge differences and
Tell us your wishes and needs, your purposes
and goals, your situation, and we’ll guide you to
the next step. Wherever, however, and why ever you
want or need to enhance communication; build or
deepen community; dream or decide or develop
something as a community, we will help.
services are fully guaranteed to your satisfaction.
Your Memories™ is created by Dr. Dolly Berthelot
professional writer, editor, communication consultant, author.
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